Oh crap

You're sitting on your couch watching TV on a Saturday night, minding your own business and then your best friend calls you up, tells you she/he's getting married and wants you to be her/his Maid of Honour/ Best man. You sweat, but cant decline, so you end up agreeing on a toast at the wedding. After you hang up the phone, you go straight to the net and search for Free Wedding speeches.

Get the picture? Statistics have shown that more people are afraid of public speaking then they are of common fears, and it is indeed a very fearful act, speaking in public, anything you say cannot be taken back, and if you say something bad, you will get foot in mouth disease.

But does looking for free speeches on the net really help? Most of the time you will find some cheap tips on how to make the perfect speech or how to say it. Or maybe you'll be lucky enough to find one that is already made, and you'll just have to print it. But these speeches tend to be rather impersonal and very general, and if you're the Maid of Honour or Best man, you'll probably just end up boring your friends and family.

When making speeches, the simpler the better, you won't have to depend on free wedding speeches off the net if you have memories of your friends.

What you are asked to do on a wedding toast is to tell the people something about your friends, the ones getting married, how they were meant for each other and how you wish them happiness for the rest of their lives. You dont need a factory made, winding speech, all you need is memories, and your genuine care for your loved ones.

If you're still having the jiggly stomach about giving your speech you can follow these wedding speech tips, they may not be ready made but they will surely help.

- Forget the preaching go on with the memories

Most people give winding speeches because they tend to give unasked advice, leave that to the marriage counsellor or the pastor, just give them memories. Most couples appreciate the nostalgia of a few well chosen memories. Find a funny or a touching memory you have of the couple and share it with the room, plus a few well wishes and you're done.

- Go for short but effective, rather than long and winding

Many of us know that a long speech is very boring; you don't want to dull the night with your talks of your childhood, and your games, with your friend. A biography is for a book, one or two memories are for a wedding.

- Write a Poem

You may say that poems are for sissies but that depends on every person's point of view. But a Wedding Is a very emotional moment and it is sure that everyone is in the mood for a little emotion and tears and what more to provoke those dams to flow than a few well said lines in the form of a poem?

- Don't forget to introduce yourself

A simple: Jane has been my friend since high school and I've never seen her gaga over any guy other than Andrew. Make a basis for what you're saying, especially if you're talking about moments in the newlywed's life. If it was a trial, you're the witness, and you need credibility. Would people understand your speech if they don't know who you are?